It doesn’t matter if you are a people’s person or a bit less of it.

It doesn’t matter if you have a huge count of friends or a few of it.

It doesn’t matter if you are too conscious, fearful, or cautious of being judged, accepted or deceived in relationships or just don’t give it much of a damn.

It doesn’t matter if you come with a natural sense of creating bonds or it’s just not your thing.

What matters is real happiness.

Happiness lies in real relationships, expression of real emotions and making heartfelt bonding. It needs to be got ridden of insecurities of losing on something or fear of being judged.

By the way, happiness does by no means is momentary fun. It’s a state of being which is persistent and which reflects in everything else around that being.

Happiness can only be derived with people who we are real friends with; who we depend on or enjoy with.

And if you have a such circle of people (even a very few) who you are real friends with, you surely have learnt the following lessons in life.

People who value you will by anyhow show how much you matter to them in some or the other ways. You understand and appreciate people for doing their bit, even if it’s by a little.

However, not everyone one will respect your effort. For them, you come at terms with the fact that those are the values you have grown with and the values that represent you. You train yourself to look beyond. And above all, you are proud of the values that make you.

You don’t compare apple to oranges

You cheer for their accomplishments, possessions and life stories, but not let their adequacies feel inadequate about yourself.

Well spending time with somebody whom you are just not happy with is a waste. You surround yourself with somebody who uplifts and is your well wisher. Not just for whom you are just an option.

You take time to invest

People don’t belong to us and they need to be reminded that they are special. You never underestimate people who care, who drops down to check your well being and ensure you are doing well. You value them and hence take time to tell them that how much you value them.

You chose to be real

You know how to be happy from inside and not just to show it to the world. Your mind is healthy and your heart is hail. You don’t carry the burden of things and bear no grudges.

Continuously blaming people for not doing their part makes you drained and unhappy in relationships. You try not to attach negative interpretations of what others do or not do in most of the situations. You believe in clearing your doubts if any so that you live without any burdens.

You understand the difference between a bond and a phase

Friendships exists because there is just something that clicks. It’s free of ulterior motives and notions. It develops over a period of time and gets deeper, silent and bigger as time passses by.

You and your set of people do understand that there are times when you can’t be available for each other since there are chores to be performed or obligations to be fulfilled. There is something over and above the superficial, the internal bond of understanding and just being there.

There are situations that are disturbing you or people who are just ruining the peace of your mind. Even the most perfect set of things are bound to face some ups and downs at certain points of time.

You tell yourself what is important to you and train yourself to get rid of all such thoughts. You are your own friend and by no means let the outer turbulence distract your presence for the people who matter to you the most.